Ever had someone present you with bad news? How about nice thing about it? What’s the difference or perhaps there is a difference?
Good news – stuff or information that creates us happy, content, reassured, risk-free and validated.
Bad news – the other.
So, it would appear there’s a difference between good and bad news – stay with me.
Have you ever gotten bad news but eventually things turned out well or superior to you anticipated? Have you ever received nice thing about it and over time what you thought was nice thing about it ended up being not so competent?
From personal experience I can show you that I have experienced all –
Good news that ended up being good.
Bad news that ended up being bad.
Good news that I thought was good but found themselves being bad.
Bad news i thought was bad and found themselves being good.
Confused yet? Well I realize that over time I was often confused regarding the difference between these two clear opposite messages. But then I found that sometimes bad news for a single person can be perceived as nice thing about it for someone else and that nice thing about it to one person over time might be perceived as bad.
Confused? Ok, i’ll explain.
In the end it’s just news and why is it bad or good or maybe neutral is not the news itself but the way we perceive it, judge it, evaluate it or react as a consequence of it.
How can someone perceive bad news as good you might ask? Or the other, how could someone perceive nice thing about it as bad?
In brief – every one of us has a unique record, experiences, beliefs and values and so none of us ever see exactly the same thing or circumstance just like.
Someone who is a worrier, bad, pessimistic or impatient might go to a delay as bad when another person who understands the very idea of there are things we can control and you’ll find things we can’t control exactly why get all upset about a thing you can’t control or if you possibly could control it get busy.
Eventually everything that happens – just happens and might know about do is interpret it all determined by our expectations, goals, needs or mindsets and these are unique for each individuals.
Let me give you a number of personal examples. And if you will consider the explanation even if you may not have had the exact same circumstances, if you will think it over I’ll be you can bond.
Prior to staring my conversing and training career I ended up being a national sales manager on an international organization. Long story though the short side is I had a worry with my boss, the president and so he fired me. Bad reports, right? Well that was all I had to decide it was time to start with a career that has lasted over 40 years and possesses allowed me to see the globe (25 countries to date) and help some tremendous clients and followers. So in the end this bad news was actually good news.
Here’s another rapid one.
Years ago I proposed to my lady and she said yes. Nice thing about it right? (No judgments below please). Well over time after doing my best for over fifteen years I decided who’s was time to end the idea and why? Well, without your gruesome details, the relationship ended up being gradually eroding my self-esteem, confidence and optimistic mindset and I decided i didn’t like who I was becoming in this relationship. We parted, amicably – but we parted. Good news when i was able – over occasion – to regain all I had created lost – emotionally and spiritually.